What’s the appropriate play: your buddy is married to an awesome lady

[Gran_Polla]

What did I say that was untrue or wrong in my post? I am not saying to cheat. I don’t cheat. I never have cheated on anyone.

I am NOT going to ruin SOMEONE ELSE’s Marriage. Why? For what? You want me to run and tell the wife so their kids live in a broken home over a one night stand? That isn’t my place...

I then lay out facts that women are far more emotional then men when it comes to this which is why it is more dangerous.

You may like to deliver bad news that cause chain events that can’t be undone. The OP wanted to know what he should do. I let him know what I would do. I would not tell that man’s wife a damn thing. IF THERE IS A REAL AFFAIR that is a different issue. But so much bad can come from that and sometimes it is better to let sleeping dogs lie.

What you did is try to paint me as a cheater saying I want to fvck other women. Again your moral high ground bull poop proves only one thing. YOU FAIL AT READING COMPREHENSION in order to delittle someone else. Sorry I rustle you so much, but you are still wrong on this one.

Have a great day. War Eagle.

8-5 mfer!

 

[Big Blue]

We were married 10 years before we had a kid and the 2nd one was a semi-accident. We weren't sure we wanted to have any for the longest time. So we got those same looks and same comments that you are talking about. My in-laws were the worst about pressuring. At one point I pulled them aside and told them every comment they made tacked on 6 months of us putting it off, because that was truly the way it was effecting my wife.

I'd miss being a dad, but I'd be lying if I said there weren't weeks that I would love to go back to the pre-kid life too. This is why I enjoy my work trips I think. Being able to wake up 2-3 mornings and just do work and whatever the hell else I want to do feels like that old life.

Very similar here. My wife and I were married ten years before kids. We had always planned to work five years after college before having kids. We were having so much fun that turned into almost seven before we decided to try getting pregnant. Then it didn't happen immediately. After the first was nearly two, we decided that since it took so long for the first we should probably get a head start on the second if we were going to do that and it was a one shot surprise deal.

The thing @ThrustMaxwell may be missing is that all of us "Breeders" have been in his position. We have experienced his side of things and walked in those shoes. He has never walked in ours. Sure, the government favors married folks with kids. There are reasons for that, some maybe good some maybe not so good. Regardless, if the human race is to survive, somebody must reproduce and raising kids to be responsible adults instead of worthless POS is not all that easy. Like you, I would not trade my kids for anything, but I sure do miss the relatively carefree lack of responsibility of the pre-kid life on occasion. It is nice for the government to help out a bit with a tax deduction and the net effect on society of that is almost certainly positive. Thrust, you indirectly benefit from it too, even if you don't recognize it. And if you want to get a "piece of the pie" you can always join up and become a Breeder. It is out there waiting for ya. If not, don't be a hater. Enjoy that life that folks like me and Jeramy are (sometimes) missing and be grateful.